There are different levels of engagement when having sex. I want to point out the obvious two main levels with a few points about each.
Quick Sex = Just plain old Sex
Foreplay Sex = Great Memorable Sex
Quick Sex
We all need a quickie from time to time. While it can be fun and exciting to have a quickie, it often doesn't satiate my husband for more than a day.
If you are having sex 3-4 times per week, 1-2 of them can be quickies. The other 2-3 should have some foreplay. One thing to be careful about falling into is always having quickie sex. It may feel like you are giving him sex all the time, but he always will be coming back for more.
Below are some examples of when you may do a quickie
- You or He is tired but a little horny
- You or He wakes up horny and needs sex before going to work
- You want to give him "round two" after a good night of sex with foreplay
- You don't have much time for some reason
Sometimes a quickie can be really exciting though. Here are examples of that:
- You are having sex in a revealing location (in a park, late at night in a resort pool or hot tub, etc)
- You are having sex quickly at risk of being discovered (middle of the day, the kids are just downstairs)
Sex with Foreplay
Sex with foreplay will produce more satisfying orgasms in the end. When your husband thinks about good memorable sex, he thinks about the night which had more than just 10 minutes and an orgasm involved. You should plan on spending at least 30-60 or longer.
This sex requires more time! So set the time aside. Do a little planning. This is what your husband thinks of when he thinks of a sexy wife.
Here are some attributes that make up good sex with foreplay
- You flirted and teased him throughout the day
- You were wearing something cute
- You had a little surprise for him
- You got dressed up in lingerie
- You gave him a little show (strip tease, lap dance)
- You tried something new sexually
- You give him a nice long blowjob to start out
- You did multiple sex positions
- You had one or more orgasms yourself (not only none!)
- You let him get really hard and draw it out. In the end his orgasm will be a lot more powerful
- You took your time!
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